Just did the laundry and sweeping. Planning for brunch later today as Ah Boy won't be up till 10am. While awaiting for him, I shall blog something here.
ZJ's last comments triggered me to write this post. So I hope you're reading this....
Talking about feeling down and heart break, you're not alone Almost everyone had experienced a break-up at least once in their lifetime and many had to deal with the pains. Waves of grief, anger, confusion, low self-esteem and even jealousy all in one. Some had speedy recoveries but some never got over the broken heart and war. Usual norm, many struggled and fought the heartbreak.....
HEARTBREAK..."complicated vocabulary"......hmmmmm....people might have had a romantic relationship that ended before they were ready. Others might have strong feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. Or maybe a person feels sad or angry when a close friend ends or abandons the friendship. The worst..I should say is broken marriage ....where once upon a time two people deeply in love....got married but the it never got to reach the "happily ever after" chapter.
All of the above....although the causes may differs, the feeling of loss is the same ~ whether it's the loss of something real or the loss of something you only hoped for. Heartbreak can be described as a feeling of heaviness, emptiness and sadness.
It depends on individuals..how one deal with the pain. Some could take it easy but others dragged on.
Somehow, I managed mine pretty well perhaps because I had something to rely on..my Ah Boy. He showed me the true meaning of life. I learnt to cherish life with him by my side.
Keyword 1~Cherish your loved ones.
Family members and relatives are great people to aide the pain. I have an aunt whom goes all out to help me. Thanks Aunt Im Ee... In her, I could share my feelings. She is the trusted one I could share my feelings with and someone who recognizes what I was going through. She helped me feel better by providing a good cry on the shoulder. Going through break-up can be really tough and getting those raw emotions out can be a big help. Cry your hearts out. It's no shame to cry...even as grown ups. Just a find a place where you can be alone. I used to cry buckets into my pillow at night and many a times in the shower when I'm getting ready for the day. It happened for months especially during the difficult times babysitting my baby. Juggling careers (2-3 jobs to make ends meet), tending to my young child and other commitments really took a toll on my life. I was lost at one moment...the confussion and the mess. Am fortunate to have great surroundings (thanks to my aunt and buddies) to offer me solace.
Keyword 2~ "Don't be afraid to cry".
In addition, I indulged in activities that I normally enjoy like helping out in my aunt's restaurant, hang out with my buddies for movies/makan/shopping and also just being alone at home ~ baking, meditating, reading, decorating the house, gardening. I kept myself busy but not to the extend of jeopadising my health and well beings. Though it wasn't easy when coping with sadness and grief but it really helps. I believe by working things through the mind is part of the healing process. The wound would disappear in no time without me realising it. I developed an interest in blogging a few years ago and I'm since addicted to it. Each time I experienced a low lying period, I would blast my feelings onto the keyboard and post them onto my blog without bothering whether there's anyone reading or not...! Blogging actually minimized my stress and depression and further boost my confidence. Eventually, I managed to bounce back to the life I'm supposed to have.
Keyword 3~ "Do what you like doing - your passion".
I used to think negative about myself due to my depreciating self esteem. But as time goes by, I started to notice the good side of mine. My buddies helped me through it. They always reminded me of my good qualities which had been clouded by my own negative thinking.
Believe me... "This one is an important aspect..REALLY".
Most people with broken hearts often blame themselves for what happened. They may be really down on themselves, exaggerating their faults as though they did something to deserve the unhappiness they're experiencing.
Keyword 4~ "Be Positive in mind".
I am what I am today is due to my willpower to ward off the pain. I didn't allow my past to ruin my present. I let the healing process accelerates itself. And I'm sure those whom are in the same shoe as I am could do it too. If you need to talk it out, I'm ever ready to lend my ears. Just respond to this post and I'll catch up with you.
1 comment:
Ann,
Going gets tough,tough gets going..
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