Tuesday, February 26, 2008

The Story of Ah Kau

Dear friends,


I received this meaningful story from a friend. I think it's a good idea to share with you.
Perhaps some of you may already know the concept and take this as reminder.... but for those who don't, take this as a new thing to ponder….








Ah Kau's story


Ah Kau is a guy who sells newspaper every morning next to your apartment, and you are one of his daily regular customers. Before dashing off to your office every day, you will go to his small stall and buy The Star newspaper. Wearing a newly pressed shirt, a tie, and Clarks shoes, you grab a copy of The Star, pay RM1.50 and exchange smiles with Ah Kau and greet him.












'Apa macam Ah Kau ini hari? Bisnes ada baik?' the normal greeting like you do every day. Yes, Ah Kau doesn't speak English. He speaks Chinese and knows a little bit of Malay. He speaks a little bit of Malay but with a very thick Chinese accent.





'Biasa saja! ini bisnes aa, kadang kadang baik, kadang-kadang tada untung.''Biasalah hidup.


Kadang kadang ok, kadang kadang tak ok.' You give Ah Kau a pat on the back.







You smile and walk away and get into your car. You start the engine and start driving to your office, a multinational company located in a premier industrial area. You are a young and promising finance executive and the future looks bright for you. A year goes by and things look pretty good on the track. You decide to marry your fiance and have your new wife moves in to your place. Both of you feel happy because you can save more money as the two of you will be sharing one apartment and can live as one.









Ah Kau is still selling the newspaper as usual. Sometimes in the morning your wife gets the newspaper from Ah Kau instead of you. A year later a child comes along, and you decide to buy and move into a newly developed condominium just across the street. This place is bigger so it will be perfectly fit for the 3 of you. But since both of you are working, you decide to get a maid to take of the household and your kid.






By this time you're offered a managerial job from another multinational; the remuneration package offered is much better in terms of the pay, contractual bonus, medical benefits, SOCSO scheme and a few others which make it mpossible for you to decline. So you join this company happily. You get busier. You realize that you spend less and less time with your family.



When your department is busy preparing for the next audit, your working hours become more and more ridiculous. Any internal issues arising in the office means you'll be stuck in the office until 8 or 9 pm. Sometimes, during the weekend, you'll spend your time in your office, buried under paper works and documentation's, instead of taking your family for a walk in the park.






One morning, on your way to get your copy of The Star, you realized that Ah Kau is no longer in his stall. So is his rundown motorbike. Instead, there's another young Chinese guy at the stall. 'What happen to Ah Kau?' You ask out of curiosity. 'Oh, he is still around, but he is no longer taking care of this stall as he has opened up a new grocery shop down town. I am running this newspaper stall for him.''Ok.' you smile. You feel happy for Ah Kau. At last he manages to improve his life.Your normal life continues.


A year passes by and at the end of your company's fiscal year, you're rewarded for your effort with a 5 months bonus pay-out by your employer. Wow. Now that is a very handsome reward. You feel your effort has been equally compensated.



To celebrate, you decide that it's time to trade your 5-year old Proton Wira to the latest Honda Accord model. It won't be much a problem to you to get a loan scheme from the bank as your pay slip will provide you an easy gateway to access financial help from any bank.



One day, the hardest reality of life hits you right on the face. The company that you've been working for years announces that they're moving their business to China for cost and competitive reason and has asked you to find a job somewhere else.





'What?' You scream out cold. 'I got a lot of liabilities on the card! Who's gonna pay for my mortgage? My car? My credit card? My gym fees? My bills?' You yell like there's no way out.This is the first time you feel let down by your own employer. All your hard work seem to go up on the smoke. You feel sick. You now hate your company.









On the way home, you stopped by at a mamak restaurant for a cup of teh tarik while pondering about your future.. Alone.


Suddenly you saw this new, shiny BMW 3 series being parked nearby. And to your surprise, it was Ah Kau. Yes, Ah Kau who used to sell newspapers nearby your old apartment. 'What happened to old Ah Kau?' You whisper to yourself.Ah Kau still recognizes you, and sit next to you, and shared his story.






To make it short, Ah Kau had accumulated his money from selling newspapers to open more stalls, one after another. Every new stall is run by his workers so that he focused on opening more and more stalls, which in turn give him more and more money.



Over the years, he had accumulated enough cash to open up new grocery store while at the same time buying more assets to grow his wealth. And his current wealth and success is achieved without any loanor financial help from banks and other financial institutions.There you go.










That's the story.





While Ah Kau is set to become financially free, you're back to where you're started before. Ground Zero.








Before leaving, Ah Kau gives you a familiar quote,' Biasalah hidup. Kadang-kadang ok, kadang kadang tak ok.' He gives you a pat on the back and walks away.



In reality, if you're observant enough, there are a lot of Ah Kaus out there, that you will see every day and every where you go.


The names are different, but inside them is every character of Ah Kau. They might be Uncle Dorai,Ah Chong,Pak Abu, Makcik Gemuk, Pak Man nasi lemak or others. They look to be struggling on the surface, but if you look carefully and compare with your life, many of them are living with little or no liabilities. They ride an old kapcai bike. They live in an old rundown house. They don't have credit card to swipe. They wear a 10-year old shirt and short. No new, shiny Toyota Harrier. In short, their living means are far below than yours.



But what you don't realize is that many of them can save more money than yours, and over the years generate enough money to expand their business, or invest in properties. Their asset columns are much thicker than that of yours.



So the next time you see Ah Kaus, never look down on them, and never under- estimate them. Or else you're up for a harsh reality lesson.






In a nut shell, control your desire towards material, be a debt free person….generate more passive incomes…so that when one day, your employer, asks you to leave,...(TOUCH WOOD)


besides calculating how much compensation package is, you will have no worry how to lead your life further with the same quality, at least from material perspective..
So for those who thought of BMW, Harrier ( I am reminding myself), annual overseas vaccations, a wardrobe of designers' collections, & etc.








Think of what you want vs what you need.

Monday, February 25, 2008

A glass of Water

A speaker when addressing the audience, raised a glass of water and asked,
"how heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.


The speaker replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it."



If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.


If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day,you'll have to call an ambulance.

In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it,

the heavier it becomes.



He continued, "If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."


"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest
before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden."

So, before you return home this evening, put the burden of yours down.


Do not carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're
carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.

Relax; pick them up later after you've rested. Life is short. Enjoy it!



Have an awesome Monday, folks.


You may be only one person in the world,


but you may also be the world to one person.













Sunday, February 24, 2008

My blog

Hi...

One of my friend commented on the content of my blog.. saying that it has some kind of saddist tone. Well..I have no intentions what-so-ever to seek sympathy from you guys. As a matter of fact, I don't need one either. I'm pretty comfortable with my life right now.



Perhaps in the near future, I would post some "brighter tales" so that my blog doesn't sound like a "funeral". I will try to make my blog a more lively instead of the present sombre mood. Maybe, I would add a bit ingredients into it and blend it ...to create an atmosphere that would encourage more readers into my blog. How about food ? Maybe some other mushy-mushy stuffs like men-women relationships. Guess most people like to talk about it. What say you...? Any suggestions ?



This blog of mine plays a dual role....a personal diary of my daily activities as well as my punching bag whenever I'm down. I'm more interested in the everyday life kinda of thing as i dislike heavy stuffs such as politics or economics. These two sectors aren't my cup of tea.

As the election craze is just around the corner, maybe I should talk a lil about it. Oh yes, I something to share here. During my recent trip to KL, I visited Central Market which offers lots of artisan masterpieces. I had the chance to drop by at this stall selling cute T-shirts of various scripts. One of the scripts caught my attention.

It's actually a dialogue between two politicians of two countries

Politician A :- Where is your election coming about ?
Politician B :- Usually every morning, I would get pretty hard !!!!!

hahahahaha...
Hey no offence please. Just share some jokes only nia.



So are you ready to cast your vote..? Make sure you made the right choice and choose the right candidate.

Saturday, February 23, 2008

Malaysian Men

Snippet from The Star Front Page 17/02/2008

Family and wealth, not sex, the mark of a macho man



Malaysian men rate sex and romance lowly when it comes to masculinity. To them, manhood means having a good job, taking care of the family and ensuring enough money.


On the upside, Malaysian men are good providers with family as their priority.
Family and money – next to good jobs – are their top concerns and the main defining facets of their manhood – 24% of them rate having a good job as the most important thing in being a “man”.



Chartered psychologist with the Health Research Development Unit at the Faculty of Medicine, Universiti Malaya, Prof Dr Sarinah Low Abdullah, said this attitude is conditioned by society.
“Masculinity is very much influenced by socio-demographic parameters. A part of male personality is not to show emotions. For most men, their sense of self, sexual desire and behaviour are related to their sense of power, respect and success,”




http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2008/2/17/nation/20358566&sec=nation

I agreed with the survey. Malaysian men are more conservative in terms of expressing their feelings. In another words, Malaysian men are not romantic as they don't show their feelings nor emotions openly. But that doesn't mean they don't care.


Malaysian men are often being labelled as egoistic , male chauvinist....etc because men don't show their love transparently. I think Malaysian men should at least emulate their counterparts in Japan, Taiwan or Korea....coz they really do emphasize of proving their love openly.

However, things are gradually changing. For example, the recent RM54K wedding proposal by a young guy to his sweetheart says otherwise....a handful Msian guys dare to express their 'romantic nature' in public. But this kind of event rarely happen.....!

Any response...my dear friends pertaining to this issue..?

Friday, February 22, 2008

Love Ladder

I've got this email from a friend a few weeks ago. And in conjunction with this Chinese "Valentine's Day" @ Chap Goh Meh.....I decided to share this.


This love story recalls a chinese couple who ran off and lived in a mountain cave for over half a century.


In 2001, a group of adventurers were exploring the forest and were suprised to find the elderly couple and the Love Ladder.


Liu, then a 19 year old boy, fell head over heels with a 29 year old widow. Xu. At that time, it was unacceptable and immoral for a young man to love an older woman. In order to avoid gossips, they eloped.


To show the devotion of the husband to his beloved wife, Liu had hand-carved over 6,000 steps so that his wife can get down the mountain easily.

Because of their love from one another, even after he had passed away, no one was able to release the grip he had on wife's hand.












Ahem....Just wonder whether such LOVE still exist in our modern society today......? If anyone of you have, please write to me.
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